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Green Eyed Monster (2007)
IMDB rating: 5.20
Plot: David (Nick Barton) convinces his friends that there is money-for-the-taking buried at his uncle’s Ranch and that he can lead them to it. His cousin Ashley (Estella Gomez) warns them that the place has a grim history, but the promise of riches is all too enticing. In trying to find the money, they uncover something buried within us all and one by one they mysteriously disappear.
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Directors: Barboza Gabriel
Actors: Arnold Michael Lee,Barton Nicholas,Okeene Kwame,Watson Akron,Cantu Reynaldo,Clark II Tyler,Lozano Omar,Lozano Osvaldo,Lozano Rigo,Lozza Ozzie,Valdez Jose,Horror,Mystery,Sci-Fi,Thriller,
All parents, kind of long, but please read. What is your opinion?
I came across a blog entry from a special needs parent. I was intrigued. Here is the entry. It’s kind of long, but what do you think about what this parent has to say?
In the wake of this very stressful week, I have thought a lot about, not only what it means to be a special needs parent, but a parent in general. I have come to realize that so many parents I have met, whether in person or online, take for granted, the gifts that they have. These parents, and I’m sure they’re good parents, love their children, but they fail to acknowledge how good things are with their children.
An example. We all know that [child] has microcephaly. For some unexplained reason, her body has trouble fighting off infections and illnesses. Gastroenteritis, for example, is an illness that causes vomitting, diarrhea, etc. 9 out of 10 kids who get it will get over it in 3-5 days. Not [child]. When she was 6 months old, [child] had this illness. She had diarrhea 17 times a day for 5 days straight. She wouldn’t eat anything, drank very little for the first four days, and stopped on the 5th. Then, she vomitted and stopped peeing. We had already taken her to the emergency room 3 times and been sent home on the basis that "her eyes looked moist". Apparently this automatically meant she wasn’t dehydrated. So, on the 5th day, when she finally vomitted, I called her dad home. I managed to get her to sleep, and when she woke up, we, creatures of habit, decided to change her bum. Dry. Or so we thought. Seconds later, dark green liquid came rushing out of her back end. We later learned this was bile. We rushed her to emergency a fourth time and demanded to see the pediatridian, rather than the emergency doctor. They called the pediatrician right away, who happened to specialize in pediatric gastroenterology. Turns out, she was the 1 in 10 child who needs medical attention to help fight the infection. She was so severely dehydrated, her veins had collapsed. It took 20 minutes to insert an IV into her foot. She cried the whole time, and didn’t shed a single tear. She was back to her normal self the very next morning.
It hasn’t stopped there. She continues to be the statistical 1 in 10 child who gets the worst of every illness, and needs medical attention to fight the infections. And each time, I have to be the "bad guy" in her eyes while I hold her down so they can take 8 tubes and 3 syringes of blood, or when I refuse to let her sit in my lap so we catch as much urine in the bag they’ve taped to her private parts. I feel haunted and guilty by those dark, sad eyes that cry "Mommy, it hurts. Make them stop", while I continue to let the monsters who are helping her, hurt her. Then I turn into a hypocrite when I hug her after it’s done and tell her it’s okay and for the best. Who am I kidding but myself? She doesn’t understand. All she understands is that Mommy is letting someone hurt her.
This is where my frustration with parents of typical kids comes in. Like I said, I have no doubt these parents love their children, but the way these children are treated or not treated, the way they are raised or not raised frustrates me to no end.
Too many parents these days take their healthy children for granted. Yes, these children get sick, but overall, they are healthy and developing normally.
This week, we had friends of ours tell me they are choosing to spank their children when they have them. I, of course, kept my mouth shut, because although I disagree with spanking, it’s not my place to tell them what they can and cannot do with their children. Parents also tend to have trouble differentiating between unspanked and undisciplined. I will say this tidbit, spanked children have been proven to have an IQ 5 points lower than unspanked children.
Back to what I’m getting at.
As a special needs parent to parents everywhere, I must say this…
Parents, all too often, yell at their children in frustration. Parents, all to often, hit their kids and call it discipline. Parents, all too often, ignore their children after a long day because they want to relax or they "just don’t want to hear it". Parents, all too often, don’t eat dinner together with their kids and thus don’t know what goes on in their lives. Parents, all too often, don’t spend any time with their children, and we turn around and blame it on video games and movies, why our precious babies-turned-teenagers begin smoking and doing drugs and end up in trouble with the law. But what is the real problem? Is it media influence, or is it lack of parenting?
And then there’s me, and the groups of thousands of special needs parents. We have our children now, but we don’t know how long we have them for. We have 3-year-old minds trapped in 15-year-old bodies, who don’t understand why they still pee themselves, because to them, it’s still normal. We have these tall, overgrown toddlers having monthly periods, and how can Mom and Dad explain to them how or why? They’re the right
K–By saying "parents", I’m sure she meant parents in general, including herself. I, too, am a special needs parent and know the difficulty in raising any child. I am completely guilty of sometimes ignoring my kids because I’ve had a long day, or of yelling at them. So when she says "parents", include me, include her, include all parents, because we’re all guilty.
Wow, I didn’t realize it didn’t all post…here’s the rest…
We have these tall, overgrown toddlers having monthly periods, and how can Mom and Dad explain to them how or why? They’re the right age, chronologically, but can you explain to a 2-or-3-year-old child why she bleeds each month? When we have to call 911 because our child is having a seizure that is unresponsive, or our child has a fever too high to count that is also unresponsive, we are scared. We hold our children as tightly as we can, because we don’t know if that will be our last chance to hold our children in our arms. Each day as a special needs parent is a struggle, but a blessing too. We still thank God or whoever we are faithful to that we have them here. We do what we can for them, because we don’t know what else to do.
A plea to parents everywhere…Go hug your children, right now. Tell them how much you love them, and mean it. From one special needs parent to all parents out there, stop taking your…
children, right now. Tell them how much you love them, and mean it. From one special needs parent to all parents out there, stop taking your children for granted. One day, he might not be here anymore to hit in the name of discipline when he runs into the street by accident. One day, she might not be here to yell at when you’ve had a long and frustrating day and just want to relax or "just don’t want to hear it". One day, they might not be here to tell you how their day at school went while you’re enjoying a meal around the dinner table. One day, we won’t have the media to blame, only our poor or lack of parenting to blame, when we don’t have our children to hug and kiss or tell them we love them anymore.
…, I love you so much. No matter the struggles of your condition, no matter the frustration and heartbreak we experience every day, you are still my baby girl. No matter how short or long you are here with me, I will love you until the day I die, and I am so sorry if I have ever
taken you for granted. You and your brother and Daddy are my world, and I wouldn’t trade this life for anything.
I didn’t read it, but have to say, I think you have some nerve copying and pasting someone else’s work and posting for comment.
Bella | Jan 28, 2010
That’s really sad, but true.
I am lucky enough to have a happy, healthy, baby and I do take him for granted. When I am tired, or frustrated I do tend to just let him play by himself. I need to spend more time with him, enjoying him.
That being said, none of us know how long we will have our children for, sad but true. Even the healthiest of children can die of drowning, or being hit by a car, or develop cancer. No one knows if there will be a tomorrow, nothing is guaranteed. So while that may be *more* of a threat to special needs parents, it is very much a threat to *every* parent.
Bitches Get Stitches | Jan 28, 2010
"As a special needs parent to parents everywhere, I must say this…
Parents, all too often…"
She’s totally right. _She is the only good Mommy in the world_.
K | Jan 28, 2010
Here here!
Trying2BNice | Jan 28, 2010
She sounds like any parent of any child — frustrated, angry, lonely, yet still totally head over heels in love with their child — special needs or not. Wish I could give her a hug and watch her kiddo for a couple of hours while she just chills. Sounds like she needs it– give her a little peace and ‘mommy’ time and make me appreciate my kids for who and what they are.
c c | Jan 28, 2010
Yes, my heart goes out to "special needs" children and know that it can be very hard on the parents as i myself have a hearing impaired daughter, but i want to say instead of looking at it as a burden and playing into the poor me, poor child mentality i realize my daughter is just as much a gift and joy in my life as my son and i wouldn’t change a thing about her as it makes her who she is, it just takes a strong enough parent to realize that. With that being said regardless of health issues and disabilities a parent can take their time with their children for granted even parents of special needs children! Children reach their full potential through the support,love and guidence from a parent as long as you the parent do not set limitations on your childs potential then even the most impaired child can succeed.
Though i do feel for this women it would seem she herself is taking for granted that her child is alive and that she has the opportunity to be a mom and make a difference in her childs life! A persons character is defined by how they deal with lifes challenges not on how sorry you feel for yourself.
Happy mommy | Jan 28, 2010
I don’t see anything wrong with what the original author has written here, She’s finding things tough, and no wonder, you just have to read it and understand she has a very ill child to care for, she’s probably written all if that down to get it off her chest, and rightly so.
She’s allowed to feel how she feels.
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